In light of this whole Rihanna-Chris Brown mess, Megan talks candidly about the difficulty/dickheadedness she encountered in pressing charges against her own attacker.
My victim’s advocate refused to speak to me after our second phone call and first meeting because my reactions stressed her out. Literally: refused to call me or speak to me. The prosecutor’s office strong-armed the detective in my case into doing it because they didn’t want to. The only thing that person is there to advocate for is the prosecutors’ interests with you, not your interests with them. They often don’t give a fuck about your interests. If you want that, tough shit, honey. Find your own lawyer.
The first person who suggested I might have been culpable — before the prosecutors got around to doing it — came less than 24 hours after it happened. She said that perhaps if I hadn’t have had so much to drink… I can’t imagine hearing from a relentless cavalcade of voices that I did something to engender the violence perpetrated on my person. Hearing law enforcement suggest it was bad enough.
The moment shani-o and I first discussed thie, she predicted a flurry of support for Brown, who would say that Rihanna escalated the situation and somehow deserved it. She was unfortunately very right, as that’s more or less how this has played out on the “urban” gossip blogs (sorry, we’re not linking to them).