Filthy is trying to plan a nice feminist, secular wedding ceremony, and is looking for suggestions.
I want my wedding to be special for the both of us, not just a celebration that I got me a man; but I don’t want it to be a five-minute secular deal. I have agreed to let my mother do a reading from the Bible since I love and respect her and her religion as she loves and respects my decision not to have one, but I would like our officiant to share something meaningful with our friends and family sans God and Jesus.
If anyone has any suggestions for readings, I would love to hear them. I would like something androgynous since I don’t wish to invoke the “standard” of heterosexual couple–none of this man and woman stuff; two people will work just fine. I also don’t want one person being active, the other passive. At my cousin’s wedding, a poem was read, the audience being the bride, who was told that her husband’s hands will essentially serve her. While a romantic sentiment, it simply illustrated the ideas of wives being objects unto which husbands will execute actions. I want it to be about an equal relationship; not archetypes.